Seizing Your Worth

Why do we have to ask for a raise? Why can’t the raise come to us? Show me someone who works harder than a hustling parent… I’ll wait. As an HR executive, I have a unique perspective on this topic. So, buckle up and take what you wish, ignore what you don’t, and feel free to email [email protected] if you’re interested in discussing this further. 

Let’s get the controversial bit out of the way first – toss generic industry standards out the window. Sure, websites like Glassdoor and Salary.com can give you a rough estimate, but they're about as reliable as a weather forecast during a hurricane. Instead, get cozy with your employer and dig deep into their budget and compensation philosophy. Several states require employers to disclose pay scales and salary ranges, some proactively and otherwise, upon request. Knowing what's financially feasible for your role is key to making a compelling case for that sweet raise. Companies have realistic markers they can and simply cannot responsibly meet. If nothing else, this is excellent information for your long-term happiness, tenure, and fit with your employer. 

Now, timing is everything, they say. But let me drop a truth bomb on you – there's never a perfect time to ask for a raise. You've got to seize the moment like a ninja in the night. Show your boss why you're the MVP of your team, highlighting your consistently stellar performance and proven, unwavering dedication. Practice your concise, direct pitch until you can recite it in your sleep, and be prepared to walk away without an instant answer. Patience is a virtue, my friend.

Negotiation is optional but not always required, and it’s not for the faint of heart. Read the room like a seasoned poker player and gauge your boss's vibe. Remember, they've likely fought tooth and nail with several business partners to secure your raise, so approach with tact and gratitude. And if the offer doesn't quite meet your expectations, don't be afraid to gracefully and confidently counter at that moment or a couple of days later. You've got this.

Here's the golden rule: no one will advocate for you better than yourself. If you're banking on a surprise raise from your boss, you might be waiting longer than a tortoise in a marathon. Take charge of your destiny, work hard, and know your worth. Know when the iron is hot and strike!

I’ll leave you with this. The job market is always hot for good people. If you aren’t getting what you want and don’t see an acceptable path financially, it’s OK to admit that truth and find an employer who will. Some people are mission-driven, some are financially driven, and some want to stay for their work wife/husband – none of these are bad or wrong, but you must make decisions for yourself and not allow a company to dictate your future. Life is simply too short. Go forth, my fellow hustlers, and claim what's yours. 

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